Love balls use: from better sex to stronger pelvic floor muscles
Not all balls or spheres are for sports, some are for the bedroom. These are love balls or also called Kegel balls – small, often colorful, cute balls that can do your vagina some real good.
There’s been a lot of talk about love balls, especially since the scene in Fifty Shades – Dangerous Love where Christian shoves a couple of silver love balls into Ana’s vagina.
So, if you want to know how love balls usage works and what benefits the little balls bring, here’s everything you need to know about these mystical balls.
Love balls use – What are the advantages?
The benefits of love balls go far beyond sexual pleasure. Not only do these balls feel fucking fantastic as they rub your vaginal muscles, increasing your sexual sensitivity and leading to more intense orgasms, but they also tone your pelvic floor.
Yes, dear: think of it as a workout for your vagina.
For pelvic floor exercises:
Excess weight, pregnancy, aging, heavy lifting and tension can all cause the vagina to become “saggy.”
But if you can improve your pelvic floor strength by using weighted Kegel balls to target and work the right muscle groups, then you won’t have to worry about a sagging vagina.
How to use love balls for pelvic floor training.
The first thing you need to do is identify which muscles you need to tighten. The easiest way to do this is to pee and stop abruptly.
You tense muscles in your pelvic floor to stop the stream of pee. These are the same muscles you need to tense during Kegel exercises. Once you’ve identified these muscle groups, you can start working:
- While the love balls are inside you, tense this area and hold it for about 5 seconds
- Then relax your muscles for 5 seconds
- Repeat this exercise at least 5 times
You can start with love balls that weigh about 20 grams. Then you can gradually increase and add more cone balls with higher weight.
If the balls slip out, it means that the pelvic floor is still too weak or the actual love balls are just too heavy.
You can get even more exercise suggestions in this article on pelvic floor training with balls.
For solo play and sex:
As for using love balls for sexual pleasure, they are much more suitable before sex than during sex itself – but both are possible.
However, the pleasant sensations that these balls trigger in you especially ensure a good preparation for sex.
How to use love balls for solo play
To take full advantage of love balls for solo play, insert them inside you before you leave the house. Since they are discreet toys, there is no problem at all if you wear them in public.
- Go about your day and move around
- Go for a walk, climb the stairs, jog, even go rowing.
- You can feel them rocking back and forth inside of you, rubbing you in the most delicious way possible
- You can tense your pelvic muscles to intensify the sensation
- This will excite you so much that you will want to “finish it off”
- Then use your trusty vibrator to masturbate
How to use love balls during sex
If you use love balls with a partner, you can keep the balls inside you while your partner inserts his penis – but it should only penetrate the anus.
However, only do this if you feel comfortable doing so.
- If you’re into anal sex, you can leave the balls in while your partner takes you from behind.
- The balls will still move inside the vagina and bump against your vaginal muscles.
- This will cause pleasant sensations
- This will add to the backdoor fun
- Your G-spot will also be stimulated by the pressure of anal penetration
Love balls use: how to do it right
Now you know that you can use love balls for different purposes, but when it comes to the actual love ball use, there are still many things to consider, which we will address below.
To be on the safe side and to get the best possible experience with your love balls, you should take these suggestions to heart.
Selection
You have to decide if you prefer a single ball, two or even three balls. For beginners, it is best to start with single balls.
While the multiple balls offer a better feel, some people find that they slip out more easily compared to the single balls.
When choosing a size, lighter weight bowling balls are recommended if you are just starting out. You can gradually switch to weighted bowling balls if the previous balls become too light.
Larger sizes are more appropriate for women who have already given birth, while smaller sizes tend to fit childless women.
You can also make a smart buying decision by purchasing love balls that are interchangeable. These types of cone balls have a silicone-based holder that “encases” the balls.
The balls themselves are removable, and you can easily swap out the lighter balls for heavier ones as your vaginal muscles get stronger.
Insert
Basically, you insert the balls as if you were inserting a tampon. At this point, however, you need to be “wet” so that insertion is comfortable for you.
Get sufficiently aroused and use lube. Or why not put the balls in your mouth first and wet them with your spit, like Ana from Fifty Shades?
Lie down in a comfortable position (preferably in the straddle position) and insert the first ball slowly and evenly. Then follow the connecting cord and after that the second ball.
Push the balls as far into your vagina as is comfortable for you and you can just touch the lowest part of the ball when you insert your finger into your vagina (3-5 cm). Tighten your pelvic floor muscles to hold the Kegel balls inside you, and go about your business.
The balls should feel secure in your vaginal canal. If you feel like they are about to fall out – or the first bullet can be seen outside your vaginal opening – gently push them deeper into your vagina.
One more thing: The collection loop always stays outside your vagina. It’s there so you can easily pull the balls out.
Remove
It is advisable to keep the balls inside you only up to 6 hours. But this sometimes depends on the materials of the balls and your body chemistry. We recommend you to ask your gynecologist for a good advice.
Taking out the balls is not very difficult. You first need to lie down comfortably and then apply some lubricant to your vagina. Pull the balls out slowly by pulling on the loop or string until they all come out.
To make it even easier to remove, you can assume a position where your feet are slightly wider than your hips.
Bend your knees and get into a comfortable squat position, then simply push them out by squeezing your vaginal muscles, similar to removing a tampon.
Cleaning and storage
Yes – we’ve already touched on it, but it’s just important to keep the Kegel balls hygienic so you don’t introduce any foreign harmful bacteria into your vagina the next time you use them.
So just rinse the love balls under warm water after use. For silicone-based Kegel balls, you can use antibacterial hand soap.
Clean them with soapy water and then wash them with water. Dry them before storing them. Pat them dry with a towel or simply let them air dry.
Store them in a lint-free bag separate from other sex toys to avoid contamination.
What are love balls anyway?
Love balls have many names. Sometimes they are called Ben-Wa balls, cone balls, pleasure balls, love balls, bowling balls, Burmese balls or Geisha balls.
Brief historical facts – these sex balls have been around since 500 AD in Japan. There, women were specifically treated after childbirth using so-called Ben-Wa or Rin-No-Tama, in order to be able to regain their sexual activity more quickly and to counteract incontinence.
Today’s love balls usually consist of two hollow spheres, each containing a freely movable, small metal ball. They oscillate and vibrate inside with every movement.
The two balls are connected by a flexible band or a thinner tapered bridge, and the longer retrieval band is used for easy removal.
Love balls are mostly made of hygienic silicone, but can vary in material, weight, shape, size and number of balls.
Frequently asked questions
Now you have already learned a lot about these magic balls and the use of love balls will be a breeze for you.
However, with such a versatile sex toy as love balls, there may still be a few unanswered questions, so here are the FAQs.
Is it safe for pregnant women to use love balls?
Yes! Using cone balls can strengthen your pelvic area more efficiently and help you prepare for childbirth.
If you haven’t tried love balls yet, i.e. you’re a beginner, you should opt for a single ball or a lighter version.
Love balls also cannot slip into the uterus, so there is no danger whatsoever.
Am I really not allowed to wear love balls during vaginal sex?
If you’re already somewhat comfortable with your love balls, you can heat things up with your partner by leaving them in during vaginal penetration – but be careful.
Your partner’s penis or dildo will move the balls around, triggering intense sensations for you. Keep the thrusts slow and steady to avoid discomfort.
You should also keep an eye on the retrieval cord.
Can I insert love balls into my anus?
Although it may be tempting, you should never insert the Kegel balls into your butt.
They are not meant for that purpose and could cause discomfort. There is also a risk that they will get stuck in that spot.
However, there are balls that are specially designed for anal play. You can find so-called anal chains for this purpose in your trusted sex store or online retailers.
What happens if the love balls don’t come out?
Actually, this can’t happen, but if you are very tense, there might be a risk.
If the love balls don’t come out right away, try to stay calm and relax. You may be able to coax them out by applying more lube.
You can also cough, move around, or even bounce up and down to get your muscles to contract and relax – know that eventually they will pop out!
Do I really need to start with a single ball?
Not necessarily, but it is advisable for beginners. There are also love ball sets available for purchase that include single balls and multiple balls – so all options are open to you.
Once you’re comfortable and used to the single ball, you can take things to the next level by swapping out the balls:
- smaller balls for larger balls
- lighter materials, like plastic or silicone, for something heavier, like metal or glass
- single balls for balls of two or three
Are love balls safe?
In general, Kegel balls are considered safe to use. But to make sure you don’t get any unwanted side effects, you should be careful not to squeeze them for more than 5-10 seconds during pelvic floor workouts.
If you squeeze for longer than the recommended time, it can strain your vaginal muscles and cause a temporary strain.
Also, you must always clean your love balls before and after use to avoid infections.
Final words
Love balls are safe and easy to use, serve a dual function of enhancing your sex life and health – and they’re also great value for money!
They will enrich your sex life in any case, but you should pay attention to the pelvic floor exercises.
Experts say that you shouldn’t do Kegel exercises if you’re young and have two fingers sliding into your vagina and the vaginal walls around them feel tight.
If you do, your muscles might tighten too much, which could prove to be a problem for your sex life and make sex painful (see Cracknell, 2020).
Therefore, Kegel balls are only recommended for those who need them. So be sure to talk to a medical professional before trying anything new.
Otherwise – have fun with your love balls!
